How would you describe much of American behavior as of late? I pose this question in a world that is increasingly…  

Politicized and polarized? 

News media have slants, and politicians have agendas? 

Has social media annoyed this climate?

Has covid-19 stressed this environment?

Has an election year exasperated it all? 

I think we can all agree and are somewhat disturbed by the new, accepted incivility. In surveys by Weber Shandwick, Powell Tate, and KRC Research, 93% of Americans identify civility as a problem in society. We don’t have to surrender to the present ethos. Civility is a choice. 

I see the return to civility through gentleness. The definition of gentle is moderate in action, effect, or degree; not harsh or severe. In our American spirit, let’s choose gentleness because it’s what we need now more than ever. 

These are three guiding principles to gentle civility. 

God. The world does not revolve around us nor according to our plan. Let’s aspire and inspire others to that higher purpose and reason for living. Let’s be open to and accepting of God’s plan. God loves us and does what is best for us. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11 NIV

Gratitude. Be aware of and share our gifts. Focus on what we have instead of what we don’t have. Be blessed and happy with less. Celebrate all of life, as this springs from a grateful heart. “The Lord has done it this very day; let us rejoice and be glad in it.” Psalm 118:24 NIV

Love. God places certain lives in our circle. It is for us to love them as best we can for as long as we can. Listen, and be there to shelter with love and intent to make life easier. “My commandment is this: Love each other as I have loved you.” John 15:12 NIV

Let’s unclench our fists and join our hands in prayer. We have a bigger responsibility on this earth and to each other, to be grateful and cognizant of God’s love every day. Let’s be civil again, America.